
We all do it. Or have done it. All a little guilty of shaming ourselves. I know when I read really fabulous blogs with creative inspiration (or even magazines), I hear a little voice in my ear that says " Why didn't you think of that?" or "See this person really has their life together, why can't you seem to have yours figured out, yet?". Its so subtle. From a little dose of shame we continue into a nasty cycle of contempt (and typically with women we are easily lured into self-contempt. So how do we break the cycle? How to stop believing the lies?
I believe its about catching yourself in the act. Instead of believing every thought that comes into our minds as truth, we can choose to question them.
I had a counselor tell me once... " You should on yourself way too much". Meaning that I compare myself to others and feel that I "should" be doing this or that, instead of asking myself what is good for me now. In this moment.
So where are you today, in this moment in your life? Its a process.. a daily process (dare I say battle). But the good news is that you are not alone. We are in this together.
I tend to put A LOT of pressure on myself to "get it together", or "have my life figured out" but more recently I am trying to live in the present, be in the present. Take one day at a time and give myself grace in the process.
How about you?? Where are you in the process? How do you battle the shame within???
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++ Also, I would love to share a fun collaborative project that I lent my paint brush to. Its a great before and after decorating transformation, with my friend Kristie: The Decorologist. See what you think!
images: aleksander kelpman and j.o.l.a